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Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough love in the mobility conversation: the cane. For many people, using a cane can be a life-changer—it adds stability, reduces pain, and makes everyday movement more manageable. But despite all that, there’s often a cloud of embarrassment or shame that hangs over the idea of using one.

Here’s the truth: there’s no shame in doing what your body needs to feel supported.

If you’re considering using a cane—or already do—but find yourself feeling self-conscious about it, you’re not alone. But let’s reframe that mindset, one step at a time.

Why You Might Need a Cane (And Why That’s Totally Okay)

First things first: needing a cane doesn’t mean you’ve “given up” or “let yourself go.” People of all ages use canes for a wide range of reasons—chronic pain, injury recovery, balance issues, fatigue, joint problems, or long-term conditions like arthritis or Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. It’s not a failure; it’s a solution.

Think of your cane like any other health tool. Glasses help you see. Inhalers help you breathe. A cane helps you move safely. It’s that simple.

How to Use a Cane Properly

A lot of people don’t realize there’s a right way to use a cane. Here’s a quick guide:

• Hold it on your stronger side. If your left leg is injured or weaker, hold the cane in your right hand. It might feel counterintuitive at first, but it helps balance your body better.

• Step with the cane and your weaker leg at the same time. This keeps your weight distributed evenly and makes walking smoother.

• Adjust the height. A cane should allow your elbow to bend slightly (around 15-20 degrees). If it’s too high or low, it can cause strain.

You can always ask a physical therapist for a quick walk-through to make sure your setup is right.

Tackling the Mental Hurdle: “What Will People Think?”

Let’s be honest: this is often the hardest part.

We live in a culture that idolizes youth, independence, and “pushing through.” That can make using a cane feel like a public declaration of weakness—even when it’s actually a smart, healthy choice.

Here’s the thing: people might look. That’s out of your control. But their assumptions don’t define you.

Instead of hiding your cane, own it. Make it a part of your look. Customize it, if you want—there are so many options now beyond the standard medical-issue styles. Wooden canes, patterned designs, even foldable ones for on-the-go use. Find one that feels like you.

Remind yourself: you’re using a cane not because you’re weak, but because you’re listening to your body. That’s strength.

Words of Encouragement

If you’re feeling nervous or embarrassed, that’s valid. Change is hard. But you deserve to move through your day with as little pain and as much confidence as possible.

You are not alone. More people use mobility aids than you think, even if they’re not visible in every social setting. And every time you walk into a room with your cane, you’re helping normalize something that absolutely should be normalized.

So take that next step—literally and emotionally—with your head held high. Your cane isn’t holding you back. It’s helping you move forward.

It’s one of those everyday things most people never think twice about. A simple, routine task: clipping your toenails. You grab the clippers, bend over, snip-snip, done.

But what happens when your body no longer lets you reach?

What happens when bending forward becomes a struggle — when your stomach, your chest, your thighs get in the way, or the act of reaching your foot sends a sharp reminder that your back or hips are not okay with that kind of movement?

What happens is this: something small starts to feel really big.

And that feeling can come with a quiet kind of shame. You might wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something so basic. You’re not. You are absolutely not. A lot of people — whether because of weight, mobility issues, chronic pain, or age — have the same question but feel too embarrassed to say it out loud.

So here it is, said plainly: It’s okay if you can’t reach your feet. You are still taking care of yourself by asking how.

Let’s talk about real, judgment-free solutions.

For some, the answer is in the tools. Long-handled toenail clippers exist — and they work. Some are designed like a reacher or grabber with an extended handle and angled blade, making the task doable without deep bending. They’re often sold online or in mobility aid stores, and yes, they actually help.

Others use a footstool or a low chair to bring the foot closer rather than trying to fold their whole body over. You can sit on the edge of your bed or a firm couch, rest your foot on a low stool or stack of cushions, and clip from the side instead of the front. It’s about working with your body, not against it.

Then there are people who realize — and this is just as valid — that it’s time to ask for help. A trusted partner, a friend, or a professional like a podiatrist or medical pedicurist can handle the task safely and without discomfort. Many clinics understand the need and offer these services with discretion and care. There’s nothing weak or “less than” about needing assistance. It’s a form of self-care to let someone help you when you need it.

And maybe, underneath the practical fix, there’s a deeper feeling too — one of frustration, sadness, maybe even fear. The sense that something has shifted in your body, and you’re not sure what to do with that. That’s okay too. Bodies change. Abilities change. Our relationships to those changes can be emotional. It’s not just about the clippers — it’s about recognizing what you need and responding with kindness instead of blame.

So if you’ve been silently struggling, quietly avoiding, or feeling defeated every time you look down at your feet — know this:

You are not alone.

There are tools. There are people who can help. There are ways to do this with dignity, safety, and ease. You are not broken because this is hard. You’re human.

Taking care of your body — even in the smallest ways — is an act of self-respect. And that’s what this is. Not defeat. Not failure. Just a new way forward.