Don’t Let Them Scare You

Jason Knowledge, Life, Psycholoy, Self Defense

They say wisdom comes with age, but what often isn’t said is how systematically that wisdom is undermined. For older adults—who have lived through wars, moon landings, the birth of the internet, civil rights movements, and recessions—it’s a quiet tragedy to be told, day in and day out, that they’re fragile, vulnerable, and dependent. This messaging isn’t random. It’s curated, intentional, and profitable.

Pharmaceutical companies make billions from convincing people that every ache is a warning sign and every mood swing needs a pill. The medical industry, bloated with specialists and sub-specialists, often treats aging not as a natural process but as a slow-motion emergency. Banks and financial advisors bombard the elderly with warnings that they’ll outlive their savings unless they lock into this plan or buy that product. Politicians appeal to fear about crime, immigration, and the collapse of Social Security. And the media? They do what they’ve always done best: turn anxiety into clicks and ratings.

But here’s the secret they don’t want you to realize: the more they can keep you afraid, the easier it is to control your choices—and your money.

It’s time to resist.

Resisting doesn’t mean ignoring your health or finances—it means reclaiming your right to approach them with calm, informed judgment rather than panic. It means asking, “Who profits from me being scared?” It means noticing when an ad tells you that wrinkles need fixing, or that retirement must be spent in constant medical checkups and estate planning. You don’t owe anyone your anxiety.

To resist, embrace curiosity over fear. Read widely, not just what’s fed to you by big networks or legacy institutions. Form your own conclusions. Ask hard questions. Talk with peers—not just professionals—and share wisdom. Start with the radical belief that getting older is not a decline, but a transition. You have earned your confidence, and you deserve peace, not panic.

The elderly should be the most defiant demographic of all. After all, you’ve seen more, endured more, and adapted more than anyone gives you credit for. Don’t let corporations and institutions infantilize you. You’ve raised families, built careers, buried friends, and survived eras. You do not need a daily prescription of dread to get through the day.

Instead, live deliberately. Turn off the television when it screams crisis. Say no to the tenth financial seminar designed to stoke your fear of running out of money. Decline the extra test or treatment when your intuition—and perhaps a second opinion—says it’s not necessary. Trust that you know yourself.

You have the right to a full, rich, autonomous life. And that begins with refusing to be anyone’s target market for fear.

Travel Tips for Elderly and Obese Travelers

Jason Knowledge, Travel, Well-being

Traveling can be one of life’s greatest joys — a chance to explore, reconnect, and experience something new. But for elderly or plus-sized individuals, it can also bring unique challenges. Tight airplane seats, long walks through airports, and accessibility concerns at hotels can quickly turn a dream vacation into an exhausting ordeal.

The good news? With some smart planning and a few insider tips, traveling while older or larger-bodied can be safe, comfortable, and incredibly rewarding. Here’s your ultimate guide to navigating the world — one accessible, joyful step at a time.

Before You Go: Planning Ahead for a Smoother Trip


1. Choose the Right Destination

  • Look for mobility-friendly cities with good public transport, fewer hills, and walkable areas.
  • Cruise ships, all-inclusive resorts, and national parks with shuttle services are great options.

2. Check Accessibility

  • Confirm whether hotels, restaurants, and attractions are wheelchair-accessible or offer elevators.
  • Ask if walk-in showers or ADA-compliant bathrooms are available if needed.
  • If you use a CPAP machine, mobility scooter, or walker, confirm airline and hotel policies ahead of time.

3. Consider Travel Insurance

  • Medical emergencies, flight delays, or cancellations can be more stressful with health concerns.
  • Choose a policy that covers pre-existing conditions, emergency evacuation, and accessible accommodations.

4. Talk to Your Doctor

  • Especially if you have chronic health conditions, a pre-travel checkup is wise.
  • Ask about medications for motion sickness, altitude sickness, or jet lag.
  • Request a letter if you’ll be traveling with syringes, oxygen, or prescription medications.
Packing Tips for Comfort and Convenience


1. Bring Comfort Essentials

  • Compression socks to reduce leg swelling during flights
  • Neck pillows and lumbar support for long journeys
  • Loose-fitting, breathable clothing and comfortable walking shoes
  • Medications in a carry-on, along with a copy of your prescriptions

2. Consider Travel Aids

  • A foldable cane or walker if stability is a concern
  • A seatbelt extender for air travel (available from airlines, but bringing your own offers peace of mind)
  • Cooling towels, snack packs, and hydration tablets to stay comfortable in hot climates

3. Don’t Overpack

  • If you tire easily, a light suitcase with spinner wheels is essential.
  • Pack outfits that mix and match easily to reduce weight.
Air Travel: Making Flying Less Stressful


1. Book Smart

  • Choose aisle seats for easier mobility — or bulkhead or exit rows for more legroom (check rules for who can sit in exit rows).
  • Some airlines allow you to purchase an extra seat at a discounted rate for added comfort.
  • Call the airline to request early boarding or mobility assistance at the airport.

2. Know Your Rights

  • In the U.S., the Air Carrier Access Act protects travelers with disabilities. You have the right to assistance, accessible seating, and bringing medical devices onboard.
  • You can request a wheelchair at check-in or even ahead of time online.

3. Plan for Security

  • TSA Cares offers pre-travel assistance for people with medical conditions or disabilities. You can request help through security screening.
Hotel and Accommodations Tips


1. Call Ahead

  • Ask for ground floor rooms, elevators, or ADA-compliant rooms.
  • Confirm bed height, shower accessibility, and if there’s space for mobility aids or equipment.
  • Request extra pillows or a recliner, which can make a big difference in sleep comfort for people with joint issues or breathing concerns.

2. Avoid Surprise Steps

  • Even “accessible” listings online can be vague. Ask detailed questions: Are there steps into the building? Grab bars in the bathroom? Wide enough doorways?

3. Use Booking Filters

  • Sites like Booking.com and Airbnb now allow you to filter for “wheelchair accessible” or “step-free access” features.
During Your Trip: Staying Safe and Enjoying the Journey


1. Pace Yourself

  • Plan an extra day for rest at the beginning or middle of the trip.
  • Schedule downtime between activities. You’re on vacation, not a race!
  • Use apps to find nearby benches, elevators, and bathrooms.

2. Stay Hydrated and Nourished

  • Bring a refillable water bottle, especially in hot climates.
  • Carry healthy snacks to avoid blood sugar dips or long gaps between meals.

3. Be Open to Help

  • Don’t hesitate to ask for assistance, whether it’s a bellhop, guide, or taxi driver.
  • Many attractions offer scooter or wheelchair rentals — even some airports or amusement parks!

4. Stay Mobile — Within Reason

  • Use public transportation over long walks when available.
  • Use walking poles or a cane for added support during tours or hikes.
  • Don’t skip excursions you want to do — just ask about their pace and terrain first.
Real Talk: Travel Confidence at Any Age or Size

There’s no one “right” way to travel. Whether you move at a slower pace or need a bit more space, you deserve to explore, relax, and enjoy new places just like anyone else. Don’t let outdated assumptions about age, size, or ability hold you back from seeing the world.

Quick Checklist for Elderly & Obese Travelers

  • Doctor’s note + medications in carry-on
  • Compression socks + comfortable shoes
  • TSA Cares or airline mobility assistance request
  • Travel insurance with medical coverage
  • List of accessible activities and attractions
  • Daily rest time built into itinerary
  • Light luggage with spinner wheels
  • Favorite snacks, water bottle, and neck pillow
  • Confidence and a sense of humor

Should I Protect Myself With a Cane?

Jason Knowledge, Self Defense, Well-being

In recent years, there’s been a troubling rise in news stories and firsthand accounts of elderly individuals being attacked in public spaces—often unprovoked. For many older adults, especially those with mobility challenges, this has sparked a valid and urgent question:

Should I carry a cane for self-protection?

With countless YouTube videos showing seniors using their walking canes in slick, martial-arts-style moves, it’s easy to get the impression that a cane can double as a reliable weapon. And while the idea of defending yourself is empowering, the reality is far more complex—and potentially risky.

The Appeal of “Cane-Fu” Videos

Search online, and you’ll find dozens of tutorials promising to teach “cane-fu,” “cane self-defense,” or “how to fight off an attacker with a walking stick.” These videos often feature choreographed moves, confident instructors, and the suggestion that anyone can quickly learn to defend themselves using everyday mobility tools.

But here’s the truth: Real-life encounters are unpredictable. And when adrenaline, physical limitations, and the shock of an attack come into play, what works on video doesn’t always work on the street.

The Risks of Relying on a Cane for Self-Defense

Let’s be realistic—most older adults are not trained fighters. And many people who carry a cane do so because of pain, joint weakness, balance problems, or post-surgery recovery. That makes physical confrontation—even with a sturdy cane—a high-risk situation, especially if your attacker is:

  • Younger
  • Stronger
  • Armed
  • Under the influence or irrational

In fact, trying to defend yourself without proper training can escalate the danger rather than reduce it.

So What Can You Do?

If you’re concerned about safety (and you have every right to be), here are smarter and safer steps to take:

1. Seek Out Local Self-Defense Classes for Seniors

Look for instructors who specialize in senior-friendly programs. Some physical therapy centers, community centers, and martial arts schools offer gentle but effective self-protection training tailored for older adults.

Focus on classes that teach:

  • Awareness and prevention

  • Escape strategies, not just fighting

  • How to use your environment (not just a cane)

  • Verbal boundary-setting and confidence-building

2. Consider Personal Alarms or Non-Lethal Tools

Lightweight alarms that make a loud noise when pulled can startle attackers and alert others nearby. Pepper spray (where legal) may be an option but requires familiarity and readiness.

3. Walk Smart

  • Travel in well-lit areas

  • Walk with a friend or group

  • Keep your phone easily accessible

  • Don’t hesitate to ask for help or call security in uncertain situations

If you think you must use your cane to defend yourself then consider this:

Think of your cane as an extension of your body, not a weapon. The primary goal in any dangerous situation is to create distance, distract, and escape safely—not to fight or “win.” A cane can help with that if you’ve had proper guidance.

But—And This Is Crucial:

Without training, swinging or jabbing with a cane can:

  • Throw off your balance

  • Be easily blocked or grabbed

  • Escalate violence instead of deterring it

  • Risk injury to you—especially if your attacker is stronger or younger

So while yes, you can use your cane for basic self-protection, it’s essential to learn how in a way that works with your mobility and strength—not against it.

What You Can Do With Your Cane If You Already Use One

1. Use it as a distance creator

Hold the cane in front of you when you feel unsafe—like a barrier. This alone signals that you’re aware and prepared.

2. Learn key “disruption” moves

With training, a cane can help:

  • Hook a leg or ankle to slow down an attacker

  • Strike bony areas like shins or knees to buy time

  • Apply light pressure to help push someone off balance

These moves are not meant to fight—they’re meant to help you get away.

3. Use it for stability while escaping

Your cane is essential for your balance—so avoid moves that would cause you to lose it. Staying upright and mobile is more valuable than attempting fancy strikes.

How to Learn These Skills Safely

Look for:

  • “Cane Self-Defense for Seniors” classes (some are offered online or at local rec centers)

  • Instructors with experience teaching adaptive self-defense

  • Styles like Hapkido, Krav Maga, or even Tai Chi with cane-based modifications—if they include training for balance and awareness

Final Advice

You’re not helpless. And you don’t have to rely on just wishful thinking or flashy internet tutorials. Your cane can be a smart tool for protection—but only if you learn how to use it in a way that respects your mobility and prioritizes safety.

Start simple. Get training. Practice awareness. And remember: your goal is not to fight—it’s to get home safe.

 

 

Serenity Prayer for People Living with Obesity

Jason Knowledge, Religion

Grant me the serenity
to accept my body as it is today,
the courage to change the habits I can,
and the wisdom to know I am worthy either way.

Help me find peace
with the scale, the mirror, and my past attempts.
May I forgive myself for setbacks
and celebrate each small, brave step forward.

Guide me to nourishment
that fuels—not punishes—my body,
movement that brings joy—not shame,
and goals rooted in love—not fear.

Remind me daily
that progress isn’t perfection,
and healing takes time,
but I am moving forward, and that is enough.

Amen.

Digital Puzzles and Brain Games: Are They Really Helping Your Mind?

Jason Entertainment, Health, Knowledge, Uncategorized

When it comes to staying sharp as we age, many of us are turning to brain-training apps and online puzzles. From Sudoku to memory match games, these tools promise to keep your mind young. But do they really work—especially for older adults or people with obesity-related cognitive concerns?

The Rise of Brain Games

Apps like Lumosity, Elevate, and BrainHQ are wildly popular with older adults. The pitch is simple: just a few minutes a day will boost memory, attention, and problem-solving. And who doesn’t want that?

For people managing obesity, brain fog can be an additional challenge—especially when combined with the natural aging process. So it’s no surprise these games seem like a smart, low-effort way to fight back.

What the Science Says

Studies show mixed results. Some research finds that brain games do help—but mostly with the specific tasks you practice. So if you’re doing a memory game every day, you’ll likely get better at that game. But whether those improvements translate into real-life memory (like remembering where you put your keys) is still up for debate.

That said, researchers have found that mental stimulation of any kind—puzzles, reading, learning a language—can support long-term brain health. It’s not magic, but it’s helpful.

Why It Might Matter More If You’re Older or Living With Obesity

Cognitive decline can happen faster when multiple factors overlap, like:

  • Age-related changes in brain structure

  • Sleep disturbances (common in both groups)

  • Chronic inflammation linked to obesity

  • Social isolation

Engaging your mind regularly helps offset these risks. Brain games can also promote daily structure, reduce stress, and increase confidence.

How to Get the Most Out of Brain Games

If you’re going to use them, make it count. Here are a few tips:

  • Mix it up: Play different kinds of games—word, logic, reaction time

  • Set a schedule: A few consistent minutes a day is better than a marathon once a week

  • Don’t go it alone: Invite a friend to play with or talk about your progress

  • Stay realistic: Think of brain games as part of your health toolkit, not a cure-all

Other Ways to Boost Brain Health

Looking beyond the screen? Try these alternatives:

  • Physical activity—Even a short walk boosts blood flow to the brain

  • Balanced nutrition—Omega-3s, antioxidants, and hydration matter

  • Sleep hygiene—A rested brain is a sharper brain

  • Creative hobbies—Painting, writing, and music stimulate the mind deeply

Final Thoughts

Brain games aren’t a silver bullet—but they can be a smart part of your brain health plan. For older adults or those living with obesity, mental stimulation is not just fun—it’s essential. So go ahead, tap into that word game. Just make sure you’re also moving, connecting, and nourishing your brain in other ways, too.

How to Read Food Labels

Jason Food, Knowledge

Walking through the grocery store can be overwhelming — especially with packages shouting things like “Low Fat!”, “Keto Friendly!”, or “Heart Healthy!” But not all labels tell the full story. If you’re trying to lose weight or simply eat better as you age, learning how to read nutrition labels is one of the most powerful tools you can have.
This guide will help you cut through the noise and make smart, confident food choices.

Start with the Serving Size

At the very top of the Nutrition Facts label, you’ll see the serving size and how many servings are in the package.

Why it matters:

If a bag of chips lists 150 calories per serving, but the serving size is only 12 chips, eating the whole bag might mean you’ve eaten 3 or 4 servings — and 600 calories!

Quick tip: Measure out serving sizes a few times to learn what they look like in real life.

Check the Calories

Look at the line that says Calories per serving. This tells you how much energy you’ll get from that serving.

For weight management: Aim for meals that are filling and nutritious without packing in too many calories. Whole foods like fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins are usually lower in calories and higher in nutrients.

Limit These Nutrients

Look at the nutrients that should be limited, especially if you’re managing weight, heart health, or blood pressure:
– Saturated Fat
– Trans Fat (try to avoid entirely)
– Added Sugars
– Sodium (Salt)

Too much of these can lead to weight gain, inflammation, and higher risk of heart disease — especially for older adults.

Goal: Choose foods that are lower in these ingredients whenever possible.

Look for These Nutrients

Next, look for nutrients you want more of:
– Fiber (keeps you full and supports digestion)
– Protein (supports muscle and helps with satiety)
– Calcium and Vitamin D (important for aging bones)
– Potassium (supports blood pressure and heart health)

Good pick: Choose foods that are high in fiber and protein, and low in added sugar.

Understand the % Daily Value

To the right of each nutrient, you’ll see a % Daily Value (%DV). This tells you how much of that nutrient one serving gives you compared to your daily needs.
– 5% or less = low
– 20% or more = high

Example: A soup with 25% DV of sodium in one serving is high in sodium.
A snack with 20% DV of fiber is a great source of fiber.

Don’t Be Fooled by Buzzwords

Food packaging often tries to look healthy even when the contents aren’t:
– “Low fat” might be high in sugar.
– “All natural” doesn’t mean low calorie.
– “Keto” or “gluten-free” isn’t always weight-loss-friendly.

Your best bet? Always flip to the Nutrition Facts and ingredient list for the real story.

Practice in the Store

Next time you shop, compare a few labels:
– Two different breads — which has more fiber and less sugar?
– Yogurt — which has less added sugar but still enough protein?
– Salad dressings — which is lower in sodium and fat?

You don’t have to be perfect — just more informed!

Final Thoughts

Reading food labels is like learning a new language — it takes a little practice, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll feel empowered to make better decisions for your body and your health.

 

Quiz: What Do You Know About Getting Older?

Jason Knowledge, Quiz

Let’s bust some myths, learn a few facts, and celebrate the journey of aging with this fun 10-question multiple choice quiz. Grab a pen or just keep track in your head.
Getting Older Quiz