These moments may seem small to others, but for someone living in a larger body, they can accumulate — creating a chronic undercurrent of stress, self-consciousness, and anxiety. Recognizing them is the first step toward building empathy, changing the narrative, and making spaces more inclusive.
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Flying – Worrying about fitting into the seat, needing a seat belt extender, or side glances from seatmates.
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Sitting in booths at restaurants – Wondering if the space will be too tight or physically uncomfortable.
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Chairs with arms – Avoiding flimsy or narrow chairs that might not hold or fit their body.
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Doctor’s appointments – Fear of weight-centered judgment, being weighed, or dismissed symptoms.
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Job interviews – Concern about appearance bias or being stereotyped as lazy or unhealthy.
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Going to the gym – Anxiety about being stared at, judged, or not fitting in with gym culture.
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Attending social events – Worrying about seating, food judgment, or unsolicited “health advice.”
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Trying on clothes in stores – Limited sizes, awkward fitting rooms, or rude sales staff.
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Walking into a crowded room – Feeling hyper-aware of taking up space or being noticed.
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Theme park rides or attractions – Fear of being turned away for not fitting into harnesses.
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Public transportation – Anxiety about taking up space on buses, trains, or ride shares.
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Dating – Worrying about body-based rejection or harmful assumptions.
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Eating in public – Fear of judgment, especially if the food isn’t “healthy.”
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Group photos – Feeling like the largest person in the picture or trying to “hide” in the back.
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Medical imaging or procedures – Equipment might not fit or may not be rated for higher weight.
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Being in a swimsuit or at the beach – Body exposure can trigger deep discomfort or shame.
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Shopping at regular-size clothing stores – Feeling invisible or excluded.
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Climbing stairs or walking long distances – Worrying about breathing heavily or falling behind.
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Being asked to participate in active work functions – Like retreats, fitness events, or team-building games.
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Everyday stares, comments, or assumptions – Including unsolicited advice from strangers or even loved ones.
